Elite: Dangerous PvE - Mobius

Senex VII wrote:

InoiTroriak wrote:Hmm yesterday so finally got the EXT point to spawn the big bounty in group play meet 4-5 other Mobius players I imiditalty sent Friend Request
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is course is not a MUST do so asked politely any reason why you will choose to reject a fellow Mobious? The guy just got rude and choose to ignore hes stupid reply..
Seriously I really do not get the purpose of Mobius anymore? anyway Screw them got plenty of good Mobious Friends, good thing now I I know who NOT to greet in Group play,, still freaking odd..

I noticed that you sent me a friend request too. It is still there; I have neither declined it nor accepted it. And this is not personal; it is just the way I am = old-fashioned!

People whom I've just met sometimes say, "Can I add you?" Of course the answer is, "No, of course not. I scarcely know you!" Yes I understand that is the habit and culture with young people nowadays. I am not of that culture, even though my profession as an engineer was to give people the tools that allowed them to build that culture.

To me each friendship has great worth and is not a trivial coin. Although I am friendly with everyone unless they make an enemy of me, I accept no friends until we get to know each other. And that takes time. It may take weeks and months!

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"What is the purpose of Mobius?" is another question entirely. There is no single 'correct' reason; different people have different reasons, and they are all valid. As far as I'm concerned, I'm a member of Mobius because I strongly support its philosophy. I gain things from the forum and occasionally contribute to it. I've lurked on their Teamspeak.

But I never play in the Mobius group in Elite! Why not? Because I'm a member of a closer smaller group of friends - maybe 15 people - who also (unwittingly) espouse the Mobius principles and whom I have known on a different Teamspeak for some years. We always play in the same group together.

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I hope that contributes to the general understanding of people like me.

There is no tiered friend structure in most social media, nor in Elite. There is no way to explain why and why not when responding to a friend request. Declining a friend request just comes over as blunt and brutal. You don't know whether someone is being unfriendly, or they're too busy, or they've just realized they have 3000 friends and it's no longer meaningful, or they don't see the point, or they don't want to feel obligated, or they're old fashioned like me and only call a friend a friend after some time, or some other reason.

And that makes it a silly system. And - as with all silly systems - it helps if you make allowances when using it!